Here we go again.

For the benefit of those who might not have gotten the memo, I’m busy.

Please don’t get your feelings hurt if I don’t answer back on IM, call on the phone, go out partying with you, or come running to your house to visit. The fact that I am socially unavailable should in no way indicate my lack of caring…it is just that my priorities have shifted and I find myself with little, if any, time for chatting, playing games, or socializing.

I know that you have busy lives, too, so you must understand where I am coming from on this issue. While I can appreciate your attempts to lighten the mood by making jokes, I really don’t have time for it right now. It is lovely that you offer to help…and I really do appreciate the thought, but honestly, you do need to understand that the job does not pay well. I can offer you tea…or maybe a meal…but that is pretty much it. If there is anything else that you might hope to gain, you might want to withdraw your offer.

Testy as it might sound, I’d rather handle the job alone than deal with crap right now. Every ounce of energy that I have is being used to fix things, paint, tend yards, clean house, and shuttle people back and forth to work. Dating, sex, and romance have taken a backseat to what needs to be done. At the risk of sounding catty, I find chores much more satisfying than dealing with relationship nonsense and lies. If your intended goal when offering your assistance is in the hope that you might get laid….nevermind.

The bottom line is this….I work hard. I’m aware that things could be easier for me if I let you ‘take care of me’…but I’ve never been the sort of woman who wants to be petted and pampered. It is kind of you to presume that you could make things easier for me…but who really wants that?

So thank you…but I must decline.

I do not need assistance, or romance, or even the pleasure of your company when it comes with strings attached. What I need is someone who understands what it is to work hard, isn’t afraid to try new things, and appreciates the value of friendship for the sake of friendship.

If that doesn’t appeal…then nevermind.

arkmomy